Social awareness and personal social skill is extremely important. Far too many people are socially unaware and socially awkward because they don’t know how to talk to people, how to lead a conversation and how to connect with another human being.
When two people are talking, one tends to lead the conversation by talking about what they want and the other person reacts. Often this happens in subtle ways and if you are unaware of it then you may be taken advantage of or put in a position where you don’t know how you got there.
These techniques could be used in a wrong way just like anything else. Being aware of that is important just as it is important to know that you can lead and carry a better deeper connection with another human being by knowing how to talk and lead a conversation.
Authenticity is hard to put into words and hard to put into action. Everyone is born into this world as true inner self.
We are born authentic. Through years we become socially conditioned and acquire hundreds of self-images of what we need to be, what we should be. Some people don’t even realize that who they are right now is not who they truly are inside. There is always a sense of self missing.
Best way to getting back to the core of your true authentic self could be described in the following quote,
“It doesn't mean adding more; it means to minimize, in other words to hack away the unessential. It is not daily increase but daily decrease; hack away the unessential.” Bruce Lee.
There are two things that our mind is here to do. One, it is to protect you, to help you survive. It’s a survival mechanism. And two, it is here to problem solve.
What it’s not here to do, is to help you live. To help you thrive.
If you are in your head too much hoping, worrying, wishing, analyzing and daydreaming, then you are not living. Thinking is a disease.
Do you ask yourself the following questions?
Where did last few years go?
Where did the time go?
Has this happened to you already?
Are you merely surviving from day to day? Are you thinking too much? Do you spend majority of your time in your mind instead of focusing on the present moment. Focusing on the moment that is within your grasp?
Yes, another article about fear. Why am I talking about something that has been discussed to death?
We all have it. We can relate to it. We know that if we beat fear then our lives will be better.
I don’t know if this particular way has been described or not. I can only talk from my experience. Perhaps it’s been written before, then great. Hopefully this article can bring the issue clearer.
Fear will never leave you.
It’s an internal part of our human consciousness. Unless there have been thousands of years in human evolution that gets rid of fear, it is not going away. Just accept that your fear will never go away. So you better make fear your best friend.
Yes. Make fear your friend.
Once you go through one fear, there will be another one around the corner. You will never completely get rid of feeling fear.
We have an internal compass inside every single one of us. Everyone is born with it and each and every one of us possesses it. This internal compass points you toward the lifestyle that you want to live. Fear is opportunity.
First internal compass is your passion and your purpose.
Second internal compass is your fear.
Every time I feel embarrassed, shy, humiliated or fearful I want to be somewhere else. I wanted to escape that situation that feeling that frustration and go away to another place. Safe place, secure place, away from everything.
I want to escape.
But, if you avoid pain if you avoid fear, rejection and humiliation then you will NEVER overcome them.
This is your opportunity, your moment breakthrough. Do not avoid it, embrace it.
Good luck reading all of it. I would suggest reading 5 traps a day for the next 4 days, but if you want to go for it and read them all now, then go for it. You really should read them all. If you do not want to read all of this, then get your lazy ass out of here and don’t even waste your time reading one. I took the time to write this, you take the time to read it.
Trap # 1: The Trap of Tomorrow
Tomorrow. Tomorrow can be feared, or desired. Tomorrow could be anything. Tomorrow could be nothing. This unpredictability of tomorrow is why we must live in the present. You could die today. You could die tomorrow. Wasting your time thinking about tomorrow is a terrible idea. Fearing tomorrow is just as bad as wanting tomorrow. Whatever tomorrow has in store for you will happen. Tomorrow will come soon enough. In fact, tomorrow will come too soon. Screw tomorrow. Live for today. Tomorrow will come whether you like it or not, so stop worrying about it. It’s pointless. Living for tomorrow is a veil that can blind anyone; be strong, don’t be blinded by it.
Trap #2: The Trap of Yesterday
Yesterday. Was yesterday good or bad? Why do you even care? Are you ever going to feel what you felt yesterday again? Probably. BUT are you going to be in that EXACT situation ever again? Hell no. Yesterday is over. Whatever happened yesterday is done and over with, and is a part of you life forever. Live for today, yesterday could have been the best day of your life, it could have been the worst day of your life, it could even have been an average day. What difference does it make? It’s over no matter what. Live in the present no matter how terrible the present is. Don’t forget about those great memories of yesterday, they are all you have. But don’t dwell on them. Look to the past only when you want to remember an old friend, or an old place, or an old feeling, or an old situation. Remembering a great feeling every now and then is completely different than living in that feeling, or trying to make that feeling last longer than it was meant. Again, live for today. It’s all that matters.
One of my favorite posts from sosuave forums. Amazing insight and things you would never find in a book.
There is so much valueable information on the forums that if taken all the experience from others and put it into a book, it would bring down and overtake the whole self-help industry.
This was written by Killa Petehog. Thanks to him for letting me post this.
When I started this blog almost 3 months ago the idea was simple.
Personal development blog.
I was going to blog about self-improvement. Write articles on improving oneself. As the time went on I slowly became dissatisfied with the content I was writing. I was writing about what I read and not what I was experiencing.
Increasing productivity is everyone’s goal, whether you know its your goal or not. We all want to put in as little time possible and get the maximum results.
The 80/20 rule states that, for many events, 80% of the effects come from 20% of the causes.
I am going to share a technique with you that has helped me to be more productive yet minimizing the time I spent on projects.
Having friends and building a social network of people is important while in college. Some of these people you could be working with, become great friends and stay in touch with for the rest of your life. So expanding your social circle is extremely important.
As a kid I looked up to Bruce Lee in everything he has done. I would go as far as to say that because of Bruce Lee’s influence on me I became who I am today.
More I read about him, the more I became fascinated about his life and his philosophy. Bruce wasn’t just a martial artist. He was an innovator. He always pushed himself in everything he has done. He was a fighter, martial artist, actor, philosopher, a father, a husband and a thinker.
Here are some quotes from Bruce that can be applied in any part of your life. From love to relationships to career to fighting.
“Do not be tense; just be ready, not thinking but not dreaming, not being set but being flexible. It is being "wholly" and quietly alive, aware and alert, ready for whatever may come.”
